So, today is my husband’s and my 31st wedding anniversary. Sobering, really. Hard to believe that the years just keep adding up! Some days it seems like just a few years and others, well, let’s say it seems 31 years and then some.
My son was married this year and today sent me a note saying that these first five months of his marriage has been eye-opening and has given him a new perspective on “how truly incredible and noteworthy” my husband’s and my relationship is. That took me by surprise! Then, I took a moment and realized how few friends and family have had a long marriage. I asked myself why?
I shared with my son a few insights I thought had enabled our long lasting marriage – although he did not ask for it! The first word that came to mind was COMPROMISE. Everyday in everything. My next advice was to treat your spouse like you would a friend. This is not always easy, but try to keep it in mind. Also, try to keep the following words out of your vocabulary when talking, arguing or expressing your emotions with your spouse: “ALWAYS”, “NEVER” and “YOU”.
This is nothing new or earth-shattering, but I think it deems repeating in an era where everything is easy and immediate. Marriage is ALWAYS a work in progress and it IS WORK! You may not “like” your spouse everyday, but you will always love them. Remember that!
I am looking forward to our continuing work in progress over the next 31 years… Cheers!
